My BDSM name is DominantSoul. I am Sensual Dominant, Alpha-male and an accidental writer who has practiced Sensual Domination, an erotic genre of BDSM, for the last twenty-seven years using contrasting Caressing, Sensual Oil Massage, Kissing, Orgasm Denial, Multiple Forced Orgasm, Forced Squirting and Spanking techniques. My blog is dedicated to educating and informing people about all aspects of Sensual Domination.
I started this blog about 6 years ago initially as simple self-therapy after my divorce to collect and organize my own thoughts about my unique sexuality with no expectations that anyone else would be interested in my thoughts or writings. I initially started writing on an adult dating site called AdultFriendFinder. Since AdultFriendFinder was primarily a swinger/hook up site, it was not a great place for sharing ideas or meeting like minded people as a writer and observer of people. In fact, lots of “open-minded” swingers were openly hostile towards me for being a Dominant. Apparently, the word “Dominant” has many different connotations – positive and negative.
Then I discovered a social media website for the Fetish/BDSM community called FetLife.com. In a very short 6 month of writing on FetLife, I had attracted 3,000 devoted readers and many loyal friends. Suddenly I realized there were a huge number of people within the BDSM/Fetish community looking for a more sensual alternative to the mainstream BDSM mantra of Sadism – “Pain is pleasure”. For many newbie subs and Doms to BDSM community, Sadism is quite scary and intimidating and they are searching for a more sensual and erotic form of BDSM. It was on FetLife I discovered that the kind of BDSM I had been practicing for 27 years was called “Sensual Domination”.
The success of my writings on FetLife led me here to WordPress. Many of my readers on FL wanted to be able to share my writings with their girlfriends or vanilla friends outside FetLife or with potential sexual partners but they did not want to disclose their kinky secret life publicly at the same time. So now my writings are available for anyone on the internet who likes sex with bit of naughty spice and lots of passion – For men who crave to take control of their women and for women who crave to possessed and devoured completely by their men; body, mind and soul.
With the immense popularity of the erotic novels “Fifty Shades of Grey” with so many women, which were pure works of fiction/fantasy without any real foundation or understanding of BDSM relationships, I thought it was time to give the curious people a reality-based, insightful understanding of the actual psychology and the relationship dynamics within a real Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship.
For the record, I have no tattoos or any piercings and I never wear leather except as a winter jacket. I am an intelligent, highly educated, professional executive with a MBA. I am happily divorced with two teenage kids and I coach soccer in the suburbs. So, I may not be exactly what you may think of when you think about a person involved in BDSM, fetishes, kinky or wild sex. I believe I was born a Dominant since I have had sexual fantasies involving bondage and urges to dominate women sexually since early puberty.
For the record, I am not a M.D., psychologist, anthropologist or clinical researcher. All my writings are from my own personal experiences and observations from my relationships. All my articles are written from the perspective of a heterosexual Dominant Male which not intended to infer all women are always submissive and all men are always dominant or all people are heterosexual, it is merely my natural bias and personal perspective. I cannot write about other perspectives since I have never experienced them.
My blog is dedicated to educating and informing people about all aspects of Sensual Domination & BDSM. Always feel free to ask questions. There are no dumb questions in this journey of sexual discovery.
I hope you find my writings thought-provoking, insightful and inspiring.
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