My BDSM name is DominantSoul. I am Sensual Dominant, Alpha-male and an accidental BDSM writer who has practiced Sensual Domination, an erotic genre of BDSM, since the age of 20 years old. My blog is dedicated to educating and informing people about all aspects of Sensual Domination.
I started this blog in 2008 initially as simple self-therapy after my divorce to collect and organize my own thoughts about my unique sexuality with no expectations that anyone else would be interested in my thoughts or writings.
I discovered a social media website for the Fetish/BDSM community called FetLife. In a very short 6 month of writing on FetLife, I had attracted 3,000 devoted readers and many loyal friends. Suddenly I realized there were a huge number of people within the BDSM/Fetish community looking for a more sensual alternative to the predominant BDSM genre of Sadism – “Pain is pleasure”. For many newbie subs and Doms to BDSM community, Sadism is quite scary and unappealing. These people are searching for a more sensual and erotic form of BDSM. It was on FetLife I discovered that the kind of BDSM that I had been practicing for 33 years was called “Sensual Domination”.
The success of my writings on FetLife led me to WordPress. Many of my readers on FetLife wanted to be able to share my writings with their partners or vanilla friends outside FetLife or with potential sexual partners but they did not want to disclose their secret kinky life publicly at the same time. So now my writings are acessible to anyone on the Internet with a Search Engine who craves to learn about sex with a spice of kink and sensuality – For men who crave to take control of their partners and for women who crave to relinquish control to their partners.
With the immense popularity of the fictional erotic novel “Fifty Shades of Grey“, I thought it was time to give the kinky-curious people a reality-based understanding of the actual psychology, sexuality and the relationship dynamics within a real Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationship. “Fifty Shades of Grey” was a pure work of fiction without any real foundation or understanding of BDSM relationships based on the “Twilight” romantic trilogy marketeted to sexually repressed suburban women.
For the record, I have no tattoos or any body piercings and I never wear leather except as a winter jacket. I am an intelligent, highly educated, professional business executive with a MBA. I am happily divorced with two university-age kids and I coach soccer in the suburbs in Canada (Yes in polite, friendly Canada!). So, I may not be exactly what you may think of when you think about a person involved in BDSM, fetishes or kinky sex.
I am not a M.D., psychologist, anthropologist or clinical researcher. All my writings are from my own personal experiences and observations from my romantic relationships. All my articles are written from the perspective of a heterosexual Dominant Male which is not intended to infer that all women are always submissive or that all men are always dominant or that all people are heterosexual; it is merely my natural bias and personal perspective. I cannot write about other perspectives (i.e hetero female submissive or hetero male submissive or gay female Domme) since I have never experienced these perspectives.
My blog is dedicated to educating and informing people about Sensual Domination. I hope you find my writings thought-provoking, insightful and informative. Please feel free to post questions. There are no dumb questions in this journey of sexual discovery.
If you have private questions for me, look on the “Contact” page for my direct contact information.