Documenting BDSM Consent: The Jian Ghomeshi Case

Blowing her mind psychologically...As a Dom who has practiced consensual BDSM (rough sex, choking, spanking, bondage, anal sex, throat fucking, facials, forced orgasms) since my early twenty’s, the recent firing of Jian Ghomeshi, a nationally-renowned radio/tv host in Canada, from the CBC for practicing rough sex and BDSM, sent a chill down my spine. His private sex life got him fired, tainted his professional reputation and got him publicly outed…

I am neither saying Jian Ghomeshi is innocent of the accusations of non-consensual violent sex nor am I saying his female accusers are telling the truth. As an experienced Dom, I am merely saying that this serves as an excellent real-life case regarding the importance of a Dom/sub contract, especially with new or occasional play partners, for documenting BDSM consent and for documenting the scope of sex acts included in consensual BDSM play. This protects both parties involved:

  • It provides a clear and concise written record of what the boundaries/limits of consensual BDSM play are for both parties involved. This eliminate any misunderstandings and scary surprises during play to ensure everyone’s emotional and physical safety.
  • It ensures that neither party can accuse the other  party of misconduct or non-consent at some later date. It also ensures neither party can blackmail the other at a later date.

Something to think about… Play safely out there everyone…

~DominantSoul

Examples of a Dom Submissive Contracts:

Here are two different perspectives on the Jian Ghomeshi case:

 

One comment on “Documenting BDSM Consent: The Jian Ghomeshi Case

  1. Honestly this is misleading. I agree that having clear limits and goals is essential, but it is in no way legal protection. BDSM or sexual contracts do not hold up in court. I personally have reported rape with evidence that I was previously promised no sexual advances. That evidence was not considered helpful and nice car was closed as “unfounded”.
    Regardless of contract or other agreement, any player can verbally withdraw consent at any time and the activity needs to end or it is no longer consensual and therefore assault.
    This isn’t someone’s kinks getting them in trouble. This is someone harming others and breaking the law and getting in trouble. There’s a very clear distinction.
    Ghomeshi was acquitted because his many accusers were ill advised of best reporting practices regarding communication with each other and the media. Because they supported each other and were not publicly silent, they were not considered credible. That’s how he got away with it.
    It was not because he was proven innocent.
    That’s what should send shivers down your spine.

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