Sensual Domination vs. Sadism: Can they coexist?

Assume the position…

The two ends of the BDSM spectrum are Sensual Domination and Sadism:
– Sadism is about tearing down a sub, enduring pain/humiliation and behaviour modification
– Sensual Domination is about building up a sub’s confidence and unleashing the hidden sexuality of a sub using flirty, dirty talk, eye contact, various foreplay methods and multiple orgasms. Sensual Domination is primarily about about first arousing the mind then taking the body to wild new heightened sexual states. Imagine your body experiencing 20 orgasms in an evening because you have no control…

Can Sadism and Sensual Domination coexist? Yes… For example, I always make a sub ask permission to cum as I stimulate her pussy intensely. I will deny her permission until I sense her desperation in her voice as she is about to lose control. At that very moment, I will often spank her has ass as hard as I can to evoke an intense pain response in her brain which will break her concentration and prevent her from cumming while keep her teetering on the edge of orgasm while remaining highly aroused. I would use this method repeatedly during the session to keep a submissive highly aroused state for hours without an orgasm – This technique is called Orgasm Denial or Edging.

Does SD always lead to physical? No… I will often arouse my submissive at work with sexual text. I will make her intensely aroused while at work and I will deny her the option to masturbate in the ladies washroom. Keeping her in a perpetual state of arousal while maintaining a proper work persona is part of her challenge.

There is a “headspace” that many submissives enter in sensual domination that I call “sub-mode” – a highly sexually aroused state, highly submissive mindset where a woman is willing to perform any act to please her Dom. It is usually triggered by one of several possible verbal or physical triggers such as:
– A masculine hand placed on her throat
– Her hair pulled back
– Her ass being slapped/spanked/paddles
– Forced to her knees to perform oral sex
– Being thrown onto the bed or held against a wall
– Being called “My naughty girl”, “My sexy kitten”, “My dirty slut” , “Daddy’s fucktoy”, etc

Every submissive is unique regarding triggers so only specific triggers work on any given submissive with a specific Dominant. The words being said are far less important to who is saying the words. The sexual/psychological power of the words is derived from the emotional connection to the Dominant.

Masochist subs are not my specialty so you really should as a masochist this question but here is a quick overview. Submissive who are masochists come in many shapes and there is no one type. There are emotional masochists who want to feel emotionally empty and used at the end of a session and physical masochists (pain puppies) who want to endure the pain as a badge of honour and many other types. There are many other variations but this is not my area of expertise.

I am always amused that Sadists refer to Sensual Domination as “soft” domination. I was told for twenty years by other Doms that, “I was doing domination wrong because I was not beating the hell out of a woman”… The reality is Sensual Domination takes a different more subtle skill set. It is not about physical domination of the body, it is about the seduction and arousal of the mind. To train a submissive to cum by simply saying a word (cum-on-command) is a very different ability than whipping someone…

As a Sensual Dominant do I or my subs crave more? Hmmm… Let me see… Over a 2-3 hour session, I may make my sub enduring 10 hard spankings after every orgasm to alternate her ability to handle pleasure and pain for 4-20 orgasms, then I may force her to have another 5-10 squirting orgasms without a break then slap and twist her nipples while hold a wand vibe to her clit and anal vibe in her ass. My objective is to complete overwhelm her mind and body with sexual stimulation and multiple orgasms until she collapses. Then I will bend her over and fuck her as hard as I can to push her over the edge and blow her mind. I want her lying on the bed covered in sweat, saluca and cum, quivering/spasming uncontrollably. I will then bring a bowl of warm scent water and gently clean her exhausted body with a damp warm cloth. I will then massage her her tired body with scented oil then her kiss her and hold her till morning.

A Sensual Dom truly loves and cherishes his sub so he wants to express a deep emotional bond with her after an intense session. I have never had a submissive tell me she “needed more”… LOL

Dominantsoul

2 comments on “Sensual Domination vs. Sadism: Can they coexist?

  1. I think you have good points in this article.. True enough I am no masochist, I enjoy some pain like spankings, clamps, but nothing really extreme I think, but I have it easier enduring them then enduring hours long sessions of edging and forced cummings… Pleasure can make me cry, pain will more make me gasp.

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    • In my experience, pain without arousal is merely pain which can also block further arousal of a submissive. However, pain after arousal is heightened arousal.

      That’s why the sequence of a Sensual Domination session must start with the mental arousal and physical pleasuring of a submissive to avoid a submissive shutting down from pain prematurely… Also, impact play after orgasms is much lighter but the sensations are just as intense because the nervous system is completely activated from the orgasms so much less force is required to evoke the same intensity…

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