I have received hundreds of emails from alpha submissives looking for my advice on how to find a Alpha Male Dominant they can submit to for life. Here is my simple dating process for alpha submissives.
- Register on Match.com (Pay sites eliminate most cheating married men. Also mainstream online dating sites are actually where all the kinky people are. There 10 time the people there to draw from – Every submissive I have a serious relationship with over the last ten years was from Match.com, Not FetLife!)
- Write a profile with the Headline “Alpha Female Seeks Alpha Male Strong Enough To Make Her Purr…” – this 50% target marketing promotion and 50% filter. It will resonate with Alpha Males and screen out all weak or submissive Beta males looking Domme females.
- Add 5 recent sexy but classy photos of yourself taken by a GF – business suit, sundress, cocktail dress, christmas party dress, sexy halloween costume, gym clothes. No cleavage, bikini or lingerie pics because you will be flooded with idiots looking for a hookup. No selfies unless your are 17 year old girl. Most men barely read profiles so your photos needs to target your kind of man so your photos need to also reflect your life & style (interests, activities. social life). Men respond most to smiles so you may want to put on your best smile & fave lipstick for your photos.
- Be clever and subtle, not blatant about what you are looking for. No Dom/sub/slut/fucktoy/sex words or you will be flooded with idiots who will waste your time. Use code words like “Take control” “In charge” “Alpha male”, “passionate and spontaneous” “open-minded and adventurous”….
- Set your selection criteria for a Dom and Partner, in terms of personal qualities, character, Dom experiences, skills, process for training subs and kinky interests.
- Screen all inquiries aggressively against your selection criteria
- Converse online with a shortlist of candidates
- Have a surprise phone calls around 10pm with each candidate during the weekend.
- Arrange face to face meetings on Friday or Saturday nights only to eliminate married or attached men.
- Meet their male friends.
- Instantly eliminate any candidate based lies and inconsistencies in behaviour or inconsistencies in terms of their past (education, finances, past relationships, criminal behaviour)… Trust, loyalty and commitment is what you require and what you are offering to be their Alpha submissive. Accept nothing less that what you deserve. Take a flamethrower to all players, big talkers and idiots immediately.
Your goal here is Quality over Quantity – Meet as few people in person as possible to avoid wasting your time and money. Screen aggressively. Get to a “No” quickly to eliminate candidates prevents you from wasting time with dead ends that will not work out in the long run and waste your time.