A Dom’s “Toolbox” of Kinky Pleasures

As in any art form, every good craftsman or craftswoman needs to good set of tools to make beautiful work. Here is a suggested list of BDSM tools of kinky pleasure for novice Doms/Dommes to consider base of their kinky interests:

Domination Tools:

• Collar and Leash  [http://www.stockroom.com/KinkLab-Submissive-Bondage-Kit-P4944.aspx] (A must-have purchase for every new Dom. It places any sub into a “sub-mode” mindset. Cheapest at PetSmart rather than at any adult stores or purchase as part of a “Kinky Starter Kit”. You can invest in a nice custom collar later once you decide to collar a sub)
• Blindfold  [http://www.stockroom.com/KinkLab-Padded-Blindfold-P4636.aspx]. Padded cloth or leather. The removal of the sense of sight intensifies all other senses such as touch and hearing.
• Wrist & Ankle Restraints [http://www.stockroom.com/Sportsheets-Fantasy-Kit-P1041.aspx] (Buy inexpensive non-leather restraints with a D-ring to start with available in starter kits. You don’t need expensive locking leather restraints to begin)
• Adjustable Tether Straps [http://www.stockroom.com/Sportsheets-Fantasy-Kit-P1041.aspx] (For quick/easy securing of a sub in various positions to any bed, chair, couch or table)
• Door Jam Restraints [http://www.stockroom.com/Over-the-Door-Cuffs-Set-P1834.aspx] (For securing a sub’s wrist or ankles to any closet or doorway – A portable St. Andrew’s Cross of flogging & spanking for hotel or holiday play)
• Hogtie [http://www.stockroom.com/KinkLab-Bondage-Basics-Leather-Hog-Tie-P2772.aspx] (The ideal position for throat-fucking a sub)
• Bondage Tape [http://www.stockroom.com/Bondage-Tape-P1012.aspx] (Quick/easy/cheap bondage without being a rope expert. As your expertise increases, you will move on to using ropes and/or straps. This is a specific type of tape that is very strong, sticks to itself strongly, easy to remove but doesn’t rip off body hair when removing – Not duct tape)
• Ball Gag [http://www.stockroom.com/Kinklab-Pink-Ball-Gag-P4272.aspx] – Personally, I never use a ball gag because I love to hear the begging, screaming, moaning and cumming as I work through a session but other Doms prefer the quiet. 😀

Arousal Tools:

• Wand Vibe [http://www.stockroom.com/The-Magic-Massager-P3393.aspx] (Powerful vibe for forcing orgasms – Use sparingly or can cause clit desensitization over time)
• Rabbit Vibe [http://www.stockroom.com/Dream-Maker-Lunar-Rabbit—-P4045.aspx] (For simultaneous clit and vaginal stimulation – ideal for solo masturbation by sub)
• Pocket Vibe [http://www.stockroom.com/The-Screaming-O-Glow-Bullet-P4229.aspx] (For focused stimulation of clit)
• Ben Wa Balls/Kegel Exercisers [http://www.lelo.com/index.php?collectionName=femme-homme&groupName=LUNA-BEADS-NOIR] (Worn by a sub for 1-2 hours every day to become more sexually responsive)
• G-spot Dildo [http://www.stockroom.com/nJoy-Pure-Wand-P2099.aspx] (i.e. Njoy Pure Wand or Njoy Eleven) – For forcing powerful squirting G-spot orgasms, Use in conjunction with a wand vibe applied onto the clit to evoke intense combo clitoral/G-spot orgasms)
• Glass Dildo [http://www.stockroom.com/Blue-Ribbon-Glass-Dildo-P3606.aspx] (Ideal for subs with allergies to latex or silicone. Can be sterilize in dishwasher)
• Dildo with suction base [http://www.stockroom.com/Cyberskin-European-Cock-P2731.aspx] (Attach to chairs, tables, doors, headboards, mirrors or shower tiles; Ideal for having a sub ride the dildo while she performs oral sex)

Breast Play Tools:

• Nipple Pump and Nipple Rings [http://www.stockroom.com/Fashionistas-Nipple-Suckers-P4947.aspx] (Keeps sub’s nipple engorged and erect for entire session for novice nipple play)
• Nipple Clamps [http://www.stockroom.com/Deluxe-Adj-Nipple-Clamps-P582.aspx] (adjustable) (Light-Moderate nipple pain for intermediate nipple play)
• Nipple Tweezers [http://www.stockroom.com/Double-Strand-Beaded-Tweezer-Clamps-P2892.aspx] (Light-Moderate nipple pain for intermediate nipple play) – Not easy to adjust pressure simply or accurately with slider. Also available with attached bells or beads or chains which offer lots of fun audible or visual feedback during passionate sex.
• Japanese Clover Nipple Clamps [http://www.stockroom.com/Japanese-Clover-Clamps-P562.aspx] (Intense nipple pain for advanced nipple play)

Anal Training Tools:

• Enema Kit [http://www.stockroom.com/Universal-Water-Works-System-P3676.aspx] (Required anal preparation by sub 2-3 hours before every session)
• Graduate Butt Plugs [http://www.stockroom.com/Black-Anal-Plug-P133.aspx] (For anal training – various sizes required for beginners)
• Anal Beads [http://www.stockroom.com/Tantus-Silicone-Anal-Beads-P3581.aspx] (For anal training)
• Anal Vibe [http://www.stockroom.com/Tantus-B-Bomb-Anal-Vibe-P4103.aspx] (Specifically designed for anal play and solo masturbation arousal – NEVER to be used anywhere near the vagina or clit to avoid serious bacterial infections or always cover with a condom during anal play)
• Active Anal Training Toys [http://www.njoytoys.com/products/pureplugs.php] – Unlike a butt plug that is simply inserted then left there, these Njoy Pure Plug toys have a handle which allows active anal training of a sub to stretch the ass.

Impact Play Tools:

• Spanking Glove (I use driving gloves but biking gloves also work well. A spanking glove allows you to spank harder and longer without tiring or injuring your hand.)
• Leather Belt (Double up a men’s belt into a loop. Delivers intense pain – Use only on buttocks with caution)
• Spanking Paddle [http://www.stockroom.com/Impression-Paddle-SLUT-P1835.aspx] (Intense, sharp pain – Use only on buttocks or will cause injury)
• Flogger [http://www.stockroom.com/Sex-and-Metal-Flogger-The-Corrector-P4766.aspx] (Diffuse, stinging pain – can be used on buttocks, shoulders/back , breasts, stomach, legs with care)
• Cane [http://www.stockroom.com/Thin-Varnished-Rattan-Cane-wBlack-Handle-P1979.aspx] (Intense, sharp pain with possible marking – can be used on buttocks, inner thighs, backs of legs and bottoms of feet with care)

Public Domination Tools:
My goal during Public Domination Play is to push the sexual stimulation of a submissive to her very limits while she must maintain her composure in public. I like to stimulate all her erogenous zones at once to eventually overwhelm her.

• We-Vibe4 Plus [ http://we-vibe.com/we-vibe-4-plus] Now you can control your submissive’s sexual pleasure from across the room or from around the world with your smartphone. Wireless remote control allows stimulation of both clit and G-spot discretely. It is also waterproof and rechargeable to allow play anywhere. This is the perfect sex toy for long-distance Dom/sub relationships
• Jeweled anal plug [http://www.aliexpress.com/store/product/Stainless-Steel-Attractive-Butt-Plug-Jewelry-Jeweled-Anal-Plug-Rosebud-Anal-Jewelry-Lavender-color/415640_680779047.html] She will feel cherished, pretty and owned wearing this stunning anal toy in public. Watch her rock in her chair at dinner making her ass and pussy spasm.
• Ben Wa Balls [http://www.lelo.com/index.php?collectionName=femme-homme&groupName=LUNA-BEADS-NOIR] Arouses the pussy / G-spot intensely when worn in public. A deadly combination when worn with the jeweled anal plug (above) for social gathering and formal events – Mutiple public orgasms are inevitable.
• Non-piercing Clitoris Jewelry [http://www.sylvie-monthule.us/cgi-bin/commerce.cgi?preadd=action&key=CLT02] [http://www.sylvie-monthule.us/cgi-bin/commerce.cgi?preadd=action&key=ST103] [http://www.sylvie-monthule.us/cgi-bin/commerce.cgi?preadd=action&key=ST44]Make her feel beautiful and naughty wearing this clitoral jewelry that exposes and stimulate her clit in public everywhere she goes…
• Non-piercing Nipple Jewelry [https://fetlife.com/users/255785/pictures/12199485] Make her erect nipples ache for attention throughout dinner. Ideally worn under a sheer blouse so the exposed erect nipples are on partial display for the waiters/patrons to potentially view.
• Nipple Rings [http://www.stockroom.com/Fashionistas-Nipple-Suckers-P4947.aspx] Same function as the Nipple Shield but not as pretty/decorative.

This is by no means an exhaustive list of everything you could buy and you certainly don’t need everything on this list to start having fun. There are many things you could add or remove from this list, depending on your kinks or the kinks of your sub. Your focus should be on learning through experimenting, not on buying lots of BDSM gear…

I hope this helps. Enjoy and have fun out there…

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~DominantSoul