Are You An Alpha Submissive?
In my experience, Alpha Females and submissive vixens are often two sides of the same strong woman: one public side, one private side. I have discovered that many women who are Alpha Females professionally by day (Executives, Doctors, Lawyers, Entrepreneurs, Supermoms) often crave the escape to be submissive vixens in the bedroom with no control and decision making.
To be clear, I am NOT saying that ALL Alpha Females are also submissives. I am saying there seems to be a specific psychological profile which makes Alpha Female/submissive a common archetype among women. I refer to these women as “Feminist Contradictions”- Successful, strong, independent women publicly who crave to be highly feminine & highly sexually submissive privately. I describe them as “Feminist Contradictions” because most men view them as a confusing persona/sexual contradiction that they cannot comprehend or decipher. In reality, they are Alpha Females/Submissive or Alpha submissives – a submissive female to only one Alpha male while being dominant over all others.
Many women are submissive by choice or by natural yearning. Alpha submissives crave to relinquish control to a strong, confident Dom by nature as part of their need for mental & sexual escape from their everyday in-control persona. Not being in control is a relief from constant decision making / being in charge during their busy, stressful daily lives. I believe most people don’t understand that submission is partially an act of escapism from their own public personas.
Alpha Females are by nature an incredible package of qualities and abilities: Self-confidence, Intelligence, Success, Wealth, and Style. Most men cannot handle being with a woman like that. They either feel inadequate as men or they feel uncomfortable never being the center of attention. It takes real confidence as a man to be with an Alpha Female.
It is also why these Alpha submissives can only be attracted to strong, powerful, confident Alpha Male. Weak, meek men do not attract them. Often submissive men misinterpret the public Alpha Female persona as these Alpha submissive females’ sexual persona. Men misread these women thus wanting these Alpha subs to dominate them sexually in private – complete incompatibility. A strong decisive, confident man truly arouses their feminine senses. An Alpha submissive can only submit to a man she feels is even more confident and Dominant than her public persona – respect and trust are key requirements.
Unfortunately, Alpha submissives often cannot discern between Dominant men and Domineering men in their relationships.
What confuses most men is there is a contradiction in behavior that these women want from their male partners: Gentleman in public, Caveman in the bedroom. Men are quite simple creatures really. Most men think if women want a polite, considerate gentleman in public, they must want a polite, considerate gentleman in the bedroom too. Secondly, society & feminism has robbed many men of their natural baser instincts. Being a good husband/father by society’s standards has feminized many men into minivan driving, cargo shorts wearing drones of suburbia. So for a Alpha submissive to find a man who is very self-confident and encouraging/supporting of her career while being sexually Dominant in the bedroom is no simple task.
One of the most consistent ways I have found to identify Alpha submissive females in public or on a date is they often say , “I intimidate most men I meet”. To confirm my initial suspicions, I often make a bold flirtatious statement during our conversation and then gauge her reaction to a statement such as. “Yes, but even good girls need a good spanking on occasion”. Her inner vixen will naturally reveal itself. By being bold and seizing what you desire sexually in private from this kind of Alpha Female, it is a sure-fire recipe of turning her into her naughty submissive vixen alter ego. It instantly turns on every single Alpha sub I have ever been with.
For example: Two years ago I dated a sexy, petite, highly successful female divorce lawyer who told me during our first meeting for cocktails, she intimidates most men she meets (my big hint about who she really was). I openly laughed at the idea which annoyed her a little. I smiled and said, ‘You are 5’ 1″ and 110 lbs. soaking wet, what’s so scary about you?”. We had intense sexual chemistry every time we met for dinner. Her incredibly sensual & passionate sensual kisses left few doubts in my mind about her true emotions for me but we had agreed to try to go slow to get to know each other first before being intimate with each other – No sex until after 5 dates was the plan.
On our fourth date we had gone out to a lovely Christmas party with her friends and afterwards we went back to her house. While we kissed passionately in the foyer, I slowly slid my left hand onto her throat. I kissed my way up her neck then whispered in her ear what I planned to do to her body. I felt her entire body go limp in my arms. I told her I knew instantly who she really was sexually then her eyes grew really wide. She immediately took my hand and led me to her bedroom. I slowly unzipped her dress and lovingly kissed and slowly caressed her exposed body which gave her goose bumps everywhere. She looked absolutely stunning in just her black push-up bra and sheer black panties.
She pretended to play shy or coy when I tried to remove her bra… So I gently placed my left hand softly on her throat again, turned her face down on the bed and ripped down her panties to expose her ass. I then command her to count out loud to 10 as I spanked her ass harshly with each number she spoke. When I was finished spanking her, I said in a deep, slow commanding voice, “Who is my dirty little slut?” She said sheepishly, “I am”. “Do you give your body, mind and soul to me to do as I desire?”… “I do”… After that, it was all systems go for a wild night of passion together…
What I did in the bedroom completely blew her mind… She was so incredibly turned on by being just taken without any warning and without being asked. She could not stop talking about how turned on she was by the experience. She had craved to be dominated for years but most men are either too intimidated by her as an Alpha Female, too meek or too gentlemanly/polite to make such a bold move in private.
With experience and maturity, you can see both the forest and the trees in life and everything becomes much clearer. Alpha subs want a classy gentleman in public who makes them feel beautiful, sexy and cherished but they also want a strong, confident, decisive, highly sexually Dominant Alpha Male who will devour them as feminine sexual beings in private…
Weak Doms & Vanilla Males:
I suspect that you have notice that many vanilla males want you to dominate them sexually and many Doms tell you that you are not really submissive because of your strong, confident energy that won’t be intimidated by mere macho puffery. Neither of these groups of men recognize you as a contradiction of two different women in one. They are also insufficiently strong and confident for you. You need an Alpha male who is stronger than you that you are willing to follow and submit to his lead.
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