My Training Rules for Submissives & Babygirls

The purpose of this article is to illustrate how a Dom or Master would translate long-term training goals (mental and sexual conditioning) into daily/weekly activities of a submissive. A submissive follows all these rules to prepare herself for a session and/or to please her Master. I should be clear that this type of psychological training is for long-term committed relationships (i.e. Master/slave) or ongoing long-term Dom/subs rather than casual or occasional BDSM play partners . The nuance of BDSM terminology is important to understand that a “submissive” is a woman of free will who gives over control of her body for a period of time to a Dom and a “slave” is a woman of free will who chooses to give over control over her body, mind and soul for 24/7 to serve her Master.

Preparing Herself...

Preparing Herself…

My forte within Sensual Domination (no or little pain Domination) is contrasting Caressing, Sensual Oil Massage, Sensual Kissing, Orgasm Denial, Forced Multiple Orgasms, Forced Squirting and Impact Play (spanking, flogging, cane). I choose to use both Sensual Domination techniques along with the impact play techniques of Sadism to heighten the sexual response of a sub. I use an Extreme Pleasure technique for Domination by which I overwhelm a woman with sensory stimulation and multi-orgasmic pleasure to overload the nervous system and to triggers mind-blowing sexual release. This article is about how subs prepare themselves during their daily routine at home and at work for Domination sessions with me.

My training objectives for my submissive/babygirl is to make her an extremely sexually responsive woman who is multi-orgasmic and a multi-squirter. My second training objective is to be on her mind throughout her day, wherever she may be so she feels constantly possessed and consumer by me. My ultimate objective is to train a sub to achieve Cum-on-Command via a visual signal, verbal command or via text message to her mobile, to achieve an instant orgasm without any physical sexual contact.

Daily Routine:

  • Before leaving her home every day, she must be wearing an item of ownership (necklace, bracelet, anklet, choker, or ring) that reminds her constantly of Master. The item must be worn in plain sight in public for other to see.
  • Before leaving for work in the morning, she must text me a photo of her outfit. This is not to control her wardrobe in anyway but to be able to compliment her on how sexy and beautiful she looks at the beginning of her day. Every morning she receives a text at 7AM wishing her good morning and every night at 11PM she receives a text wishing her sweet dreams.
  • At lunch, she must perform 100 Kegel exercises at her desk then text me about her day.
  • Every day after work, when she changes out of her work clothes, she must insert the Ben Wa balls into her pussy and wear them until bedtime. She must wear the ben wa balls for all social, exercise, yoga or work out activities.
  • Every night before bedtime, BabyGirl must masturbate until she cums 3-5 times.
  • Whenever BabyGirl masturbates, she must first insert a butt plug in her ass, insert Ben Wa balls into her pussy and wear nipples clamps (with bells) on her breasts. (All sex toys provided by Master)

Weekly Events & Special Occasions:

  • Thursdays are “Naked Chef Night”. BabyGirl will prepare dinner wearing only one of Master’s white dress shirt, thigh-high black stockings and 4-5″ high heels or boots. Master will be greeted with a glass of red wine and a 3-minute kiss.
  • Fridays are “I’m Master’s Dirty Slut @Work” day which means she must masturbate in the washroom at work after lunch then insert the Ben Wa balls in her pussy for the remainder of the day. She must text a photo of her masturbating at work as proof.
  • BabyGirl must always wear a wirelessly controlled We-Vibe vibrator in her pussy to all public social functions (family events, work events, social events with friends, dinners out, orchestra/theater, charity galas, movie theaters, sporting events, etc). Before leaving for an event, BabyGirl will kneel in the living room to present the remote controller to Master and then present her naked pussy with the We-Vibe inserted in her pussy for inspection by Master while lying in the dining table.

Preparations for a Domination Session:

  • BabyGirl is NOT allowed to touch or pleasure herself in any way for 3 days before we meet in person.
  • Within 72 hours before BabyGirl will see Master, she will go to the spa for a facial, mani/pedi, massage and waxing. (All expenses covered by Master)
  • On the day that BabyGirl will see Master, she will insert the Ben Wa balls into her pussy at work at noon then wear them until we meet in person after work.
  • 1-4 hours prior to meeting, BabyGirl will prepare herself for anal sex (Evacuation, multiple enemas to douche, then insertion of jeweled anal butt plug.).
  • BabyGirl will always meet Master in public with Ben Wa balls or a wireless vibe inserted in her pussy and her jeweled butt plug in her ass.
  • Before meeting Daddy, BabyGirl will always insert two fingers deep into her pussy then spread her plentiful juices onto her lips to greet Daddy with a passionate kiss.

Standards of Behavior:

  • BabyGirl will always refer to Master as Sir, Daddy or Master in private
  • BabyGirl is not allowed to wear bras or panties at home with Master (without children or family around).
  • BabyGirl must always greet Daddy in public in a short skirt or dress with stockings or tight jeans & high heels.
  • BabyGirl must always greet Daddy wearing red lip gloss, french nails, red toes, sparkling jewelry (earrings, bracelet, choker), and a silk ribbon in her hair.

Sensual Rituals as a Kinky Couple ( for every session):

  • Before every session, Daddy and BabyGirl will shower or bathe together to reconnect emotionally as a couple and to symbolically prepare ourselves for each other.
  • Before every session, scented candles will be lit to provide soft lighting and music will be selected to set the appropriate ambiance for the session (sensual or pounding or both).
  • Before every session, BabyGirl will present herself to Daddy completely naked, with only her high heels on.
  • Daddy will then slowly apply lotion or massage oils to every inch of BabyGirl’s body so every nerve ending in her body is aroused and her body feels soft and sensual to touch. After each limb is massaged with lotion or oils, Daddy will attach a restraint to each wrist or ankle. The final step is where BabyGirl stands naked in front of Daddy then he slowly kisses his way up her neck then whispers in her ear what he has planned for her during the session then places his collar and leash on her neck.
  • After every session when BabyGirl is completely exhausted and her body is spasming from intense orgasms, Daddy will hold and caress her trembling body until she recovers. (Refer to Sensual AfterCare)
  • After BabyGirl recovers from the session, she will clean Daddy and BabyGirl’s bodies with a warm wet towels then feed Daddy (fruits, cheeses, charcuterie, water or wine).

Rules for Sharing BabyGirl with others:

  • When being shared with others (men, women or couples), BabyGirl with ALWAYS be wearing Daddy’s collar with bell, leash and his jeweled anal butt plug in her ass. This is to symbolize that BabyGirl is always owned by Daddy even when she is being fucked by others.
  • BabyGirl will not kiss other men on the mouth. That intimate act is exclusively reserved for Daddy. However, BabyGirl may kiss any woman she desires in public or in private, with or without Daddy’s presence.
  • BabyGirl will not have anal sex with other men or women. That intimate act is exclusively reserved for Daddy.
  • When BabyGirl is being shared with other men, Daddy will always be present to keep her physically safe, to ensure her emotional safety and to encourage her sluttiest behaviour.
  • When BabyGirl is being shared with women, Daddy only needs to be informed of BabyGirl’s plans in advance and then all the details of her sexual encounter are to be shared with Daddy upon returning home.

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159 comments on “My Training Rules for Submissives & Babygirls

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  2. Lucky girl! Not just for the obvious reasons but this kind of relationship takes huge amounts of trust in another human being. The fact that you are willing to devote your time to build that trust, it’s impressive.

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  3. Paints a very sensual picture that draws you in and wish to find this type of connection. Although, being a huge klutz, I kept envisioning myself breaking an ankle in the heels….but at least they were cute heels! 😊

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      • I wear 6 inch heels ans full closet of thrm. Cushion in heels but ive been wearing for years. My first Master got me in to higher heels in my early 20s. I have nive legs feet to go with them you have to take care your feet to also wear heels buffing them and self care. I wear steal boned corsets also. I love dressing up men love it. You have to be in to high heels those that love it Im a girly girl.

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        • Sorry typos. You have to walk in heels right to do it right. The ball of the foot should hit the ground thrn thr heel back up straight and breast up shoulders back sway your arms one foot front of the other. Practice makes perfect stsrt with wedge heel. Also your feet nesd feet spa batb with beads and a spondge you buff them they get buffed enough to wear heels. Mouth wash also gets dryness of feet. Feet need to be buffed like once or twice a week make surw nails are clipped and cleaned. Massage the feet do yoga and stretches. Ground for feet in thr grass daily grounging good for thr body. Should have a bath hour before tou slip on heels before you fo out. Nice pair of sheer stocking or panty hose. People woth high arches or ant feet need full gel clear cushion in the heel also guard pads at the bottom help from not slipping. To take care good heels only wear good ones out only wear everyday heel dont mind getting nicked. Apply loction daily and through the day 3 times a day on feet and hands. Just as your face needs good face mask feet need a dace mask like charcol beeds like the face keep thrm smoorh.


        • My Master had a rule only heels no orher mind. Kitten heels work best durinf thr day if you go out higher heeld makr sure you have gokd fit and cushions. Leg Avenue heels dont strain your feet. Goid to bring some flats wellike ones buy from store that you fit in small purse or cluntch there like slippers flats.

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  4. We’re switching… and I’ll see him soon, he’ll be waiting for me for the first time as my puppy… I wonder… do you have sleeping rules for your babygirl, and any great tips to get him on top of his arousel, the hours before I arrive? I love your style…

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  6. Your babygirl is so lucky to have you!, after years of not finding my prefect Daddy, it has finally happened… while we are still new to each other, I love reading your blog for ideas on how I can be the best sub/babygirl for him and to make him proud of me

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  7. Sounds enticing & intriguing.
    Question: what happens if babygirl wants or needs something else? How is that handled?
    Thank you,

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    • Great question. This is a long, slow process before I collar / take a submissive. Within the mutual selection/ screening process we determine mutual “kinky compatability”. I would never select a submissive who did not also crave and become aroused by my kinky and sexual desires. We must be “kinky compatible”. Anything else would never work out long-term.

      In addition, if she wanted to experience something new or different that intensely aroused her, obviously I would want to give her that and vice-versa. As you explore together, your sexual boundaries tends move broader with growing trust, connection and intimacy.

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      • Mutual commonality.. as it should be. Wonderful explanation. That sounds ideal … now how do I find that?? 😉


      • I completly agree. I try once with a Dom that our kinks didnt line up but i still tryed all of his and took them in even him peeing on me everynight before i was allowed to go to bed. To me this was extremly descusing but to him it was a humiliation ownership thing. So i leaned and asepted ot every night. Until one night i wake up with his d in my mouth and him deep down my throat. Normally i would be extremly honored to wake up with his d in my mouth. But this time he desided to pee in my mouth and hold me down tight on it until i swollowed every drop. When he let go i ran to bathroom to use mouth wash. But he stoped me before Icould make it there. As a punishment for being so disrespectful to him, the next 2 days everytime he had go pee I was to take it in my mouth it was so disgusing but i told myself its punishment so ur make it thew these two days and after that ur put it on ir hard limit if you still dont like it at all. Cause my favorite saying is I’ll try anything once and i know somethings it does take few days to see if its something your like or not. I use to thibk i wouldn’t like the brush but after a few days i loved it so much that now i beg for it. When the 2 days ended he wanted me to continue it even tho the punishment for being disrespectful was only suposed to be for 2 days. I told him no its now on my hard limit. Before this only hard limit i had was no knife play. So long story short it didnt work out cause we didnt have simular kinks. Now I always ask them what kinks interest them and if they dont fall in some rang of what I am into then i know its for the better not to even try.


        • Everyone has hard and soft limits. Hard limits never change. Soft limits can change with time or with different partner’s interests. Peeing and humiliation are outside my hard limits and immediately indicate long-term incompatibility.

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  8. Rules or guidelines or great for building trust and showing possesion but even a true submissive needs to have some room to Express her individuality through creative or spontaneous ways.

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  9. Do you recommend ever switching roles? Would it in some way undermine a good dom/sub dynamic to switch roles? How would that be done? I would think– No, there’s so much to think about: is the sub also naturally dom? And vice versa? Might the sub just want to please the dom, and fail to be a good dom? Would the dom becoming the sub undermine his authority when he becomes the dom again?


    • That completely depends on the people involved. Communication is key. I am not a switch so I don’t feel I am expert to comment. May I suggest you post a question on a switch group discussion on FetLife.


    • BDSM is honestly a smorgasbord of things and you can pick the things you do and do not like and this phrase I learned from a very wise Male Switch. It honestly depends on the dynamic of the relationship. I personally know some D/s couples (D/s is much lighter than an M/s dynamic and with fewer restrictions) that do occasionally switch roles mostly for scenes or sexual enjoyment.


  10. I mean perfectly okay with other women* I understand certain acts such as anal sex or more private intimate acts that are shared between you and said submissive. I mean where you have to be present if your submissive is with other men, but it’s okay for them to be alone, etc. with other women.


  11. You sound amazing. Can I please clone you for myself? I am beginning to believe a Dom like yourself has become a dieing breed. I hope your sub realizes she’s a very lucky woman.

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  12. I love these and it made me smile many times to myself, especially playing with another woman so long as I tell Master!!


    • Diane, the gift of submission is the most intimate and deeply trusting gift any man can receive. She gives me her body, mind and soul completely for my pleasure and yo fulfill my most depraved desires without limits. No, I am so lucky to have found her.


    • Like anything, there is a learning curve for BDSM. So just start exploring to figure out what you like, crave or dislike. It’s a journey of exploration and discovery to find and claim your true sexuality.

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