Do You Attract The Wrong Kind of Men?

Dominant vs. Domineering Men…

I believe sexy is an attitude, not a dress size. I believe all women can be sexy. It is the presence that a woman projects when she carries herself into a room. Confidence is the raw essence of sexy – it is the raw energy that draws people to you… The challenge for women who are sexy and confident is what kind of man can handle being with them.

Actress Jenny McCarthy

For most sexy, confident women, men who are intimidated by them are non-starters. They lack the sexual confidence to be attractive, interesting or alluring. Often these men will also naturally be submissive to a confident woman. However, the opposite can be very attractive to a confident woman – a confident man who chooses to be submissive to her (Domme/sub).

There are two other types of men who pursue confident women aggressively and they often appear very similar to each other but are quite different psychologically: Dominant (self-confident) vs. Domineering (controlling, manipulating, bullying). The purpose of this article is to give women the tools to be able to discern the differences and make better choices for their sexual partners.

You would think that most men would want sexy, confident women as partners. The real problem for confident sexy women is that most men cannot handle having a sexy confident woman once they win them over. They constantly fear they will eventually lose this sexy, highly sexual woman to another man – many male sexual insecurities kick in! In the end, most men fear they cannot satisfy the needs of a highly confident, highly sexual woman or stop the constant advances of other men upon a beautiful partner when they are not around.

Domineering men often view women as possession not partners/equals. Domineering personalities tend to be possessive, paranoid, highly jealous and controlling. As a coping strategy, domineering men tend to emotionally belittle, physically isolated or financially control women as ways of keeping their beautiful, sexy partners under their emotional control and keep them less sexually empowered.

How Domineering men emotionally control women (Physically, Emotionally, Financially, Sexually):

• No wife of mine is going to the wedding dressed in that dress! You look like a two-dollar whore…
• There is no need to change your hair. The old hairstyle looked fine.
• The one-piece swimsuit is more respectable for the pool party
• I thought you’ve been going to the gym regularly. You look like you gained some weight.
• Why do you spend so much money on shoes and going to the spa constantly?
• You need to see the doctor because I think you are a “nymphomaniac”!
• You are running up huge phone bills calling your mom, sisters and friends all the time. You cannot keep wasting all this money gabbing!

I believe a highly confident, highly sexual woman can only find lasting happiness with a partner who actually encourages their sexuality rather than being intimidated or threatened by her sexuality. She needs a man who is even more sexually confident than herself.

I love when a woman tells me that they intimidate most other men. It instantly tells me this woman is likely very confident, intelligent, successful and very sexual (Woohoo!).

As a Dominant male, I am very self-confident. I crave women who can turn heads with their beauty and their brains. I crave a confident, intelligent, successful partner who turns heads and hold her own in a professional or public setting. At the same time, I am very proud of the sexy, feminine woman who is my partner. So, I actually want to show off my sexy, confident partner in the hottest dress and the sexiest shoes. I want her to feel beautiful, sexy, desired and cherished. I want every man in the room to turn, to drool over her and to crave her because I know she is leaving with me. I want men to tell her she looks really sexy tonight because that makes her feel amazing as a woman. I have no fear she is leaving me for another man EVER… That is the difference between a Dominant and a Domineering mindset.

The purpose of this article is to help women differentiate the different kinds of men and why they may keep selecting the same kinds of men over and over. This is not intended a promotional article for Dominant men.

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~DominantSoul

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